That woman is so toned, so strong, so sure of herself, so successful, so rich, so happy…, I’ll never be able to achieve what she’s achieved.
People often ask what you need first in order to be successful with your goals, every single time, regardless of the goal, my answer is self-belief. Self-belief may seem novel and not worthy of carrying such importance, however, in my opinion it is simultaneously the foundation on which you will build your success and the pathway that will guide you to it. It not only gives you the confidence in your ability to set and achieve your goal, it gives you the drive and the motivation along the way.
It’s like the incredibly talented business magnate Henry Ford once stated,
‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right’.
We can all identify times in which we have had strong self-belief and others times in which we have had minimal or none. For some of us we are incredibly confident in a work environment but lack this feeling in our personal lives. For others we may be solid in our role as Mothers or Wives but feel uneasy about our professional life. For a lot of us we feel comfortable and confident in an old environment but uneasy and unsure in a new one. Regardless of if your goal is to join a gym and get into exercise, take control of your eating habits, find balance in your health routine, or finally lose that excess weight, self-belief is imperative to your success.
Now this doesn’t mean you need to be the most confident gal in the gym, however, to set a smart goal, you need to believe you can achieve it. It needs to be something that regardless of how terrifying it may be, or regardless of how many times you may have failed at it in the past, you believe deep down that it is something you are capable of mastering with the right strategy and effort put towards it.
You may be thinking something like ‘But I’ve never had self-belief so how can I begin now?’. Trust me, every single one of us has had self belief. You may not remember but once upon a time you couldn’t walk upright, you tried and fell and tried and fell and tried fell and after hundreds of falls, one day you walked into the arms of a family member or friend that reacted as though you had just walked on the moon. Now if on your 47th fall, little you didn’t have any self-belief and just gave up hope, where would you be now?
Self-belief keeps us going when the going gets tough, it reminds us that regardless of the challenge that we are capable of achieving it, and remembering those things gives us confidence in the task at hand. So if we’re all born with self-belief and we can agree that it’s vital in hitting our goals, how do we reignite it?
Let’s do it together with the 4 steps to success.
1 – Write down one goal and research and note what is required to achieve it. Try not to simply write what you ‘believe’ it takes to achieve it as this can put a false map on the pathway and make things more difficult. For example if you believe it takes 7 workouts a week to lose weight, however, through research discover it can be less than half of that, your belief in yourself to achieve it will automatically improve. Remember to write down anything and everything you will need to achieve it, you would be surprised how many resources you have already to help you hit your goal.
Example: Goal – Lose 15kg’s. Resources required – Time to exercise at least 3 x per week, access to healthy food, limit alcohol consumption to 4 x drinks per week, stay hydrated, accountability partner.
2 – On all of the above resources, now tick off whether you have them already or not.
Example: Time to exercise at least 3 x per week ✅, access to healthy food ✅, limited alcohol consumption to 4 x drinks per week ❌, stay hydrated ✅, accountability partner ❌
3 – Draw your attention to the resources you don’t have and choose one resource to focus on changing from a cross to a tick. This could be the one you feel is most important, one you feel is the easiest, or one you feel is the fastest, there is no wrong option, just choose one. Once you have chosen a resource you wish to obtain, strategise at least 6 ways in which you can obtain it (By listing 6 options this will help you think outside of the box).
Example: Accountability Partner: Get a Personal Trainer, get a friend to join the gym, tell my partner my goals and have them hold me accountable, get a coach, post my goals on social media and ask for some help with staying accountable.
4 – Choose one option to help move you forward, the steps you need to take to achieve it and a specific timeframe for when you will do this. Make sure you put these actions into your calendar, reminders or diary to help keep you on track!
Example: Tell my partner my goals and have them hold me accountable: I will tell my partner tonight at 8pm before bed of my goals and that I need his/her help in achieving them. I would also like them to hold me accountable by doing a check in and asking how I’m tracking every Monday at 8pm before bed. I will add this to my phone’s calendar as a repeating event for every Monday at 8pm.
Remember the 4 steps to success don’t work unless you do. Don’t take the time to work all of these things out and then stop before taking action. Do something today that will solve a problem for tomorrow and watch your self-belief increase.
Last but not least, as always, if you are having trouble with any of your 4 steps to success, don’t hesitate to contact me through our contact page on this site or our socials.
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